Whether you are a voyeur or exhibitionist, the mirrors will let you see and be seen.

Warm-Up: Shower Them with Love (and Glances) Sex and relationships depend on balance, and what a particular sexual act lacks, sexplay and individual touch can make up for. Because the positions in this chapter limit steady eye-to-eye contact, you two will need to share lots of amorous glances prior to sex. So, as sexplay, the couple will get hot and wet in the shower. Like an aperitif, table wine, or digestif in a fine restaurant, bathing can come before, during, and after sex. Shower before sex, because the cascading water stimulates, invigorates, and cleanses, and then bathe afterward, because soaking calms, relaxes, andyes! cleans as well. Sometimes you need to take a quick shower and charge out of the house. Thats not our goal here. Sexual showers, with their aphrodisiacal aromas, warm water, steam, and tender touch, follow five main points that help us cleanse as we prepare to get dirty. 1. Smell

Shop together to pick out all-natural soaps, shampoos, conditioners, and skin oils that you both enjoy. Awaken your body with essences of rosemary, mint, basil, or citrus. (Just be sure to dilute your oils before using.) 2. Touch Toss your towels in the dryer to heat them. This simple act says, I care. Find a water temperature that suits both of you. Wash your partner and pay special attention to the parts you plan to lick and fondle, as well as the parts that you want to discover and explore. Forget the term foreplay, which means any act that precedes another; think instead of foreshadowing, which carries tantalizing hints of whats to follow. 3. Clean Apply the good enough standard to your cleanliness. Let the water and your anticipation work their magic, and you will both look gorgeous fresh from the shower.

Shampoo her hair. Scrub his back. Massage her shoulders. Hug and kiss under the running water. Use a handheld shower head on yourself and each other (but for her safety, never jet water into her vulva). Prep yourselves now for pleasure in bed later. Shave and use a body scrub made from sea salt or sugarstraight from your kitchen to save time and moneyfor glowing skin youll admire in those mirrors. As a sign of trust in your partner, let him or her do some of your grooming. 4. Communicate Because most showers have only one nozzle, each of you will have to ask for time under the water, so give and take freely. Sharing in the shower serves as a prelude to an egalitarian exchange in bed. Talk not only about what feels good, what tickles, or what is sore or tender, but also about what you want to do with your partner later in bed.